Friday, 9 August 2019


Episode 27

The Might of Bhima and the death of Bakasura[i]

This is a simple story of the death of Bakasura (a demon) in the hands of Bhima. The story is interwoven by many discussions as to who should sacrifice life for the sake of demon before Bhima was sent by Kunti to kill him. Can guest be sacrificed for the sake of protecting the self? Is the purpose of marriage for dharma and not for carnal pleasures? Is listening Vedas by shudras a taboo? What is the definition of shudra and what controversies? Let us read and analyze the story.

The Story

In the last episode we saw the duel between Bhima and Hidimbasara. After the death of Hidimbasura, Pandavas moved to Ekachakrapura (currently it is a small village in Birbhum district of West Bengal). They stayed in a house of a Brahmin as guests. They were still in exile disguising themselves as Brahmins and thriving on alms bestowed by the villagers. All the brothers used to go out to beg food and half of it was consumed by Bhima and the rest by all other brothers including Kunti.

Ekachakrapura was in the grip of a deadly demon by name Bakasura. The dastardly demon used to delight in devouring human flesh. To save the prowl of the carnivorous beast, the villagers entered into a gentle-man agreement with Bakasura. Each day one household had to send a cartful of food, two buffalos and a human being as part of his menu and the demon agreed not to disturb the peace of villagers. Pandavas were not aware of this arrangement and no one had told them also.

One day Bhima and Kunti were sitting in the corridor of the Brahmin’s house discussing something and the remaining four Pandavas had left to fetch food. Pandavas were not aware that it was the turn of their host on that day. Suddenly they heard the people of the household weeping bitterly. Kunti rushed to the spot and found all people gloomy and despondent. 

The Brahmana was crying, ‘Oh I was anticipating this day from the beginning and advising to leave this place. But you did not heed my advice. See, the imminent danger is knocking our door right now. You are a pious and a patient lady following my dharmic path. Like a mother you are nourishing and nurturing me. The very gods have sent you as my friend, philosopher and guide. How can I now desert you and go there?’[ii], the Brahmin was talking to his wife.

He continued, ‘See our cute small son. He has not yet grown and still a child. How can I leave him? This is our beloved daughter. The gods have given her to perform ‘Kanyādāna’[iii] and I and my forefathers attain divine abodes by virtue of children born to her. A few may say that the father loves son and a few others say that he loves daughter. But I love both of them equally[iv]. Now what can I do? I can’t leave them, and death for all of us is the only alternative’, the Brahmin lamented.

‘Oh, Swamy! Don’t lament over this issue. Today I will go and sacrifice my life. A wife is supposed to protect her husband and that is dharma. You married for progeny and I got relieved from the debt by giving children to you. The purpose of my life is fulfilled. If you die and I outlive your death, I can’t rear up these two children. I can’t even protect this girl from the evil eyes of envious men. Further a lady without husband would be akin to the fallen flesh ready to be picked up by all men around. I can’t protect myself and tread on the dharmic path and I will be despised and demeaned’, the Brahmin’s wife argued.

She continued, ‘If you die and I live, I will become helpless and our daughter shall be coveted by ignominious people just as shudras covet to listen the resonance of vedas[v].

“Further a woman is not to be killed as per dharma and the demon may leave me because I am a woman[vi]. A man is certain to be killed and woman has the chances of being relieved. Hence, I only will go and do my duty as a wife. You may think that you cannot perform rituals without me. I can tell you that you can always marry one more lady and it is as per dharma. If a woman transgresses her husband, it is unrighteousness, but it is righteous for a man to take the hand of second lady as his wife’.

Kunti was carefully listening to the conversation. By that time the Bramhin’s daughter came forward and offered to sacrifice her life. ‘Listen to me. I am your daughter and one day you must leave me. Son helps in relieving the forefathers from the pangs of Punnama Naraka[vii]. My sons (dauhitras) also help but I will save my parents now itself by sacrificing my life. 

People say:
आत्मा पुत्रः सखा भार्या क्रुच्चं तु दुहिता किल (ātmā putraḥ sakhā bhāryā kruccaṃ tu duhitā kila)- Adi Parva 158- 11 (Son is the very image of father and wife a friend and daughter an impediment). I am of no use to the family unless I help the family at this critical stage. Oh father, for the sake of dharma, for the sake of all of us and for the sake of progeny you need to live on this planet. Let me die for a noble cause’.

Then the small boy came up with a hay stick and told childishly that he would kill the demon with a hay stick and that he would go to the demon on that day. Everyone hugged him for his innocence. It looked as though a gloomy garb has girdled the very atmosphere and wrapped their tears in its chest lest a flow of tears should engulf the entire village.

Bhima and Kunti were unaware the demon that was destroying the peace of the village. Kunti came forward and asked the reason for their grief. The Brahmin narrated the understanding of the villagers with Bakasura and that their king left them to their fate. Now it was his turn to send anyone in the family for the feast of the demon.

‘What happened to your king?’, Kunti enquired. Brahmin told, ‘he has left all of us to our fate. We have none to protect from the clutches of Bakasura’.
The Brahmin continued, ‘An intelligent person should strive for a good king first and later aspire for wife and wealth before thinking of the up-lift of relations[viii]. I achieved all these except the king, and I am to be blamed for my misfortune now’. ‘We are suffering by our association with a weak king’, he added.

Kunti had pity towards the family. The Brahmin family had provided shelter to them, and she felt that she should do some service to the Brahmin’s family. ‘Oh, great Brahmin! There is no need to grieve now. You have one son, but I have five sons. One of my sons shall go to the beast’
The Brahmin was aghast. He was not willing to send his guest for protecting his own life. He was not aware that he was talking to Kunti and that her son was none other than great Bhima. He was under the impression that his guests were Brahmins only. He told, ‘Oh lady! If your son is killed by the demon, I attain the sin of Brahma hatya[ix] , If I go and allow myself to be killed by the demon, it may be atma hatya[x]. I cannot extricate myself from the sin of Brahma hatya. Since the atma hatya is not intentional I may not attain sin at all. I prefer atma hatya to brahma hatya’.

‘It is heinous crime to kill the guest. Even the apad dharma does not envisage the killing of guest to save one’s own life’. Kunti understood the sensitivities of the Brahmin host. She assured, ‘Oh great Brahmin, please allow me to send my son. He is a mighty warrior and he had killed many demons earlier. He can save you and the village from the barbarian demon’. Reluctantly, the Brahmin agreed.

Kunti went inside to reach his son.  Bhima was not the person to fear any person in fighting. He accepted it a challenge. By that time all other Pandavas arrived and surprised by the decision of Kunti. ‘Oh, mother! You have decided to send Bhima for a duel with an unknown demon. For protecting a Brahmin, you prefer to sacrifice your son! Is it in tune with the tenets of dharma?[xi] Dharmaraja lamented.

But Kunti knew the strength of her son and stood by her word. She told, ‘You all don’t know his strength. When he was a child, he had fallen to the ground from my lap and the stony rock had crushed into powder. In a fight, the lord Indra cannot match him’. Then Dharmaraja also consented.
The great duel was about to happen on the day and Bhima was exited. He took the cartful of food and set out to design his destiny. He ate all the food and challenged Bakasura. The ferocious demon fell upon Bhima with all his might. The duel was fearful. They fought with trees and rocks, and fists of fury. Each tried to crush the other to the dust but each rose up to fight to the finish. Slowly the power of the demon began to wane, and Bhima caught hold of him by neck and broke his spine to pieces. Bakasura fell dead on the same field where he had heaped hundreds of human skulls. All the followers of Baka ran helter skelter. Bhima called back all those and pacified them with pleasing words. He also threatened all of them not to kill humans from thereafter and all of them agreed.

Bhima returned back to his place without any pomp or pageantry. Pandavas did not want to reveal their identity to anybody. People flocked the place of Brahmin to know the warrior who killed Bakasura. No clue came forth from the Brahmin and all left the spot –each imagining in his own way.

Short Analysis of the story

This is very simple story for narrating to children but when the story is read with the discussions of the family members, we come across several insights in understanding the society of Maha Bharata days. Every member of the family comes forward to sacrifice his/ her life – each one invoking dharma (dharma of the head of the family, the dharma of wife, dharma of daughter, and the dharma of taking care of guest etc).

The society of the period was such that everyone in the society knew the nuances of ethical values that normally regulated the society. We observe that there were certainly no laws; and ethical values form the bedrock for each decision. Everyone tries to justify his/her decision on certain values. Father says that he cannot die leaving the members of the family to their fate. His wife says the futility of her existence since she has redeemed her duties as wife. Daughter says that she can do what the dauhitris (daughter’s sons) would do in future. Kunti feels apathy and try to redeem what they owe to the family members. The Brahmin invokes atithi dharma to take care of guests and again says that even apad-dharma does not allow the sacrifice of guest for preserving one’s own life.

The arguments of wife are worth reading. She says that she has given birth to children and her necessity is futile to the family. The dharma of Hindu way of life never gave prominence for sensual pleasures and the purpose of marriage is for progeny. 

Here I quote a passage of Pujyasri Chandrasekhara Saraswathi of Kanchi Pitham as follows:

“Marrige or vivāha is known as sahadharmacāriṇī  saṃprayoga. It means (roughly) union with a wife together with whom a man practices dharma. The clear implication is that carnal pleasure is not its chief purpose, but the pursuit of dharma. The sastras do not ask a man to pursue dharma all by himself but require him to take a helpmate for it. The wife is called dharma-patni, sahadharmacāriṇī, thus underlining her connection with dharma, and not with kāma or sensual pleasure. Here is proof of the high esteem in which the sastras hold women” –
-Voice of the Pujyasri Chandrasekhara Saraswathi, the Hindu Dharma, page 560 published by Bharatiya Vidya Bhavan.

Manu Smruthi says like this:

प्रजनार्थं स्त्रियः सृष्टाः सन्तानार्थं च मानवः ।
तस्मात् साधारणो धर्मः श्रुतौ पत्न्या सहोदितः ॥ मनुस्मृतिः 9-96-

prajanārthaṃ striyaḥ sṛṣṭāḥ santānārthaṃ ca mānavaḥ ।
tasmāt sādhāraṇo dharmaḥ śrutau patnyā sahoditaḥ
(Women are created for the purpose of childbearing, and men for the purpose of procreation. Hence the Religious Rites have been ordained both for the man and his wife). While commenting on this Medhatithi writes that since religious rites cannot be done by man alone, he cannot abandon his wife even if she is hostile. Thus, divorce was never envisaged in ancient Hindu society.

In this story, the arguments of the wife of the Brahmin resonates with the reasoning embedded in sastras.
The story highlights the vulnerability of woman in general in the absence of protective mechanism which we witness even today, may not in the same degree. The woman without husband has been compared to flesh fallen to the ground ready to be picked up by so many men. The status of woman cannot be judged by this single passage that they lacked security. There is argument in this same story that woman is one who should not be killed, and even demons may not resort to killing women. We come across lot of discussion in Ramayana before Tataka was put to death by the arrows of Lord Rama (The story of Tataka will be discussed when Ramayana stories are taken up for discussion). Similarly, wife is looked upon as mother (नित्यं मातृ समां मम - nityaṃ mātṛ samāṃ mama) bestowing prestige to a devoted wife.

The story highlights the pre-eminence enjoyed by men in the matters of marriage over women. While a man can marry many, the wife’s choosing a man other than husband was frowned at and not permitted.
The other important aspect of the story is the general tendency of the society to give less importance to girl child. The daughter in the family says- ‘son is the very image of father and wife a friend and daughter an impediment’ to anyone. This general tendency is again not uniform and common since dharmic people with equanimous character do not distinguish a girl from that of a boy. In this same story we come across the Brahmin’s emphatic words that both the son and daughter were equal to him.
Can the guest be sacrificed for the sake of preserving one’s own life? The answer is an emphatic no. If the guest happened to be Brahmin and if he is sacrificed, it is akin to sin associated with Brahma hatya. The Brahmin invokes dharma and says that suicide (ātma hatya) is better than brahma hatya (killing a Brahmin). In Maha Bharatat times varna system was in vogue and the definition of Brahmin is the one who possesses intellect of vedas and who was of satva character. Killing of such a person is Brahma hatya.

One important factor from the sociological perspective can be gleaned by a reference that shudras listening to vedas is a taboo. To understand this passage in the right perspective one should read the famous sloka of Gita which says:

चातुर्वर्ण्यं मया सृष्टं गुणकर्मविभागश: (chātur-varṇyaṁ mayā sṛiṣhṭaṁ guṇa-karma-vibhāgaśhaḥ) - Gita 4.13

It means that God created the four varnas based on the person’s qualities (satva, rajas, and tamas) and nature of duties (reading of vedas, protecting people, business and servant work) respectively. Thus, a sudra was one who by quality is tamas and by nature of work is menial. Here the caste shudra is not referred. By this definition, a servant of tamas nature was not required to learn vedas.  

But these type of statements in our smritis are subjected to lot of criticism by western scholars and a few Indian scholars interpreting shudras as ‘caste sudras’ as we define in the current century. Prohibiting the hearing of vedas to Varna sudras may not be wrong; but prohibiting learning of vedas to caste sudras cannot be justified.  Many traditional scholars interpret the sudra from the perspective of varna since Gita from which this definition is derived is part of Maha Bharata only.
Role of citizens in choosing the king is also highlighted in the story. People should not cling to weak and useless king. A strong king is to be preferred always.

The story, thus, highlights many critical aspects of dharma and is useful to understand the grand narrative of Hindu society.

Points to ponder

1.    Is marriage just for procreation of children? Can this moral be sacrosanct for the current society? Can dharma undergo change?
2.   Each decision in ancient society was tested on the fulcrum of dharma and everyone tried to justify his/ her viewpoint based on certain dharma. Have we imbibed the tradition now?
3.   How should we treat a guest? Can we sacrifice the cause of the guest for protecting our own cause?
4.   What precautions the citizens should take in selecting a king?

Footnotes


[i] This story is taken from Adi Parva of Maha Bharata written by sage Vyasa.

[ii] सहधर्मचरीं दान्तां नित्यं मातृ समां मम |

सखायं विहितां देवै: नित्यं परमिकां गतिम्  - Adi Parva 156-31
sahadharmacarī
ṃ dāntāṃ nityaṃ mātṛ samāṃ mama |

sakhāyaṃ vihitāṃ devai: nityaṃ paramikāṃ gatim – Adi Parva 156.31

[iii] Kanyādāna – The gift of daughter to the bride-groom by the bride’s father in her marriage. In Hindu tradition, this ritual is performed with great sanctity amidst the chanting of vedic verses.

[iv] मन्यन्ते केचिदधिकं  स्नेहं पुत्रे पितुर्नराः |
कन्यायां केचिदपरे  मम तुल्या उभौ स्मृतौ || Adi Parva 156.37
manyante  kecidadhikaṃ  snehaṃ putre piturnarāḥ |
kanyāyāṃ kecidapare  mama tulyā ubhau smṛtau ||

[v] इमामपि चते बालां अनाथां  परिभूय माम् |
अनर्हा: प्रार्थयिष्यन्ति शूद्रा वेद श्रुतिं यथा || Adi Parva-157.16
imāmapi cate bālāṃ anāthāṃ  paribhūya mām |
anarhā: prārthayiṣyanti śūdrā veda śrutiṃ yathā ||

[vi] आवध्यां स्त्रियमित्याहु: धर्मज्ञा धर्म निश्चये |
धर्मज्ञान् राक्षसानाहु: न हन्यात्  स च मानुषि || Adi Parva-157.31
āvadhyāṃ striyamityāhu: dharmajñā dharma niścaye |
dharmajñān rākṣasānāhu: na hanyāt  sa ca mānuṣi ||
[vii] punnāma naraka  – a hell postulated in Hindu thought. This hell can be crossed by each person, if he has a son.

[viii] Adi Parva 159.12
[ix] Brahma hatya – killing of a Brahmin
[x] ātma hatya – killing of own self or suicide.
[xi] Adi Parva 161.6

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Friday, 2 August 2019


Episode 26

Hidimba’s love with Bhima -the birth of Ghatotkacha[i]

This is the story of Hidamba’s love with Bhima, the second in line of Pandavas and the consequent birth of one of the greatest warriors of Kurukshetra battle, Ghatotkacha. The story discusses ‘kama’ of Hidimba and elaborates that love is not a taboo in our ancient India. ‘Kama’ associated with dharma is the resplendence of God itself. Then why are certain restrictions on love making for couples? What is dharmic love and how it is different from adharmic love? For details read the story below.

The Story

In the aftermath of the burning of the Laksha Griha (Lak house), Pandavas hastened to leave the place and on the same night they left the place and reached a faraway forest. It was a dark night and the forest was dense and the Pandavas found it difficult to tread on the path with vigor.  Dharmaraja requested Bhima to carry them all (Adi Parva 149.25) and he readily obliged. He carried his mother and other four brothers and that was his strength.

On reaching the forest, Bhima made them sleep below a tree and guarded them in the night. What a fateful night? The powerful kings who were destined to rule the world were ordained to sleep on the floor of the forest. The queen of Pandu Maharaj and the aunt of Lord Krishna, Kunti was not spared by the fate and she had to sleep on the floor with quenching thirst. Bhima was at once sorrowful and scolding the evil Kauravas.

The forest was the abode of a powerful Asura, Hidimbasura. He sensed the human entry into the forest by the power of smell and instantaneously yearned to have a feast of human flesh. He ordered his sister Hidimba to kill and collect the bodies of those humans.
Hidimba reached the spot where Bhima was guarding his mother and brothers. The mighty Bhima was standing majestically and his manly maneuver made her mad. 

अयं श्यामो महाबाहु: सिंहस्कन्दो महा द्युतिः।

कम्बुग्रीवः पुष्कराक्ष: भर्ता युक्तो भवेन्मम।। (ayaṃ śyāmo mahābāhu: siṃhaskando mahā dyutiḥ। kambugrīvaḥ puṣkarākṣa: bhartā yukto bhavenmama।।)- (Adi Parva 151.18) – ‘He was a man with broad shoulders, dark brown in complexion, thick muscles of a mighty lion, cone like broad neck, broad eyes and resplendent aura – oh! Yes I am blessed if he were to be my husband’, Hidimba thought.

Why should she follow the dictates of her ‘cruel’ brother? She might get happiness by the feast of their flesh but that would be ephemeral. If she marries the man, that would fetch permanent happiness (Adi Parva 151- 19, 20). She, being a lady with magical powers, turned herself into a beautiful damsel and reached Bhima with blushes on her cheeks and smiles on the lips. She told gently that she was deputed by her brother Hidimbasura to kill all of them. ‘But on seeing you, I could not control my senses. I offer myself to you for service’. She offered to rescue Bhima from the imminent danger and escort him to dense caves and forests where they could enjoy the coital bliss (अतुलामाप्नुहि प्रीतं तत्र तत्र मया सह[ii] - atulāmāpnuhi prītaṃ tatra tatra mayā saha)

Bhima was guarding his brother and how can he leave them to the mercy of a cruel demon and disappear with a damsel? He was no way inferior in strength to anyone including gods and how dare a demon lay his hand on his brothers? He further told, ‘The man who is sleeping here is my elder brother and he is not married yet. How can I transgress dharma and attract the epithet of PARIVETTA[iii] in the eyes of the society?’ So he asked Hidimba to fetch her brother for a duel.

While the discussion was going on, the restless demon was growing impatient and he reached the spot and saw his sister decked with ornaments and conversing with an unknown man. His anger knew no bounds and decided to devour his own sister and all the Pandavas.

Hidimba got frightened at the deadly approach of her brother from a long distance and alerted Bhima to wake all his brothers so that she could carry all of them to unknown destination fast. But Bhima was a man of mighty energy and loved fighting with demons and beasts. With one gulp, he caught hold of Hidimbasura and, as a lion dragging a deer; he dragged him to a distant location in order not to disturb the sleep of his mother and brothers. The duel was cruel with each of them plucking the trees from the roots, rocks from the crust and throwing at each other.

The sounds of fury pierced the peaceful sleep of Pandavas. They woke up and knew what was happening from the polite Hidimba. The dusk was about to dawn and Pandavas knew that the strength of demons (Asuras) grow with each stroke of a second. Arjuna alerted Bhima to finish the demon before it could become totally dark. Bhima, the son of powerful Vayu (God of wind), with all the strength at his command, beat the demon with a deadly stroke and broke his back into pieces. The demon screamed and breathed his last.

Everyone praised Bhima and then they started moving towards a town nearby. Hidimba followed with heart filled with anxiousness. She saw the nonchalant Bhima moving without bothering to look at her. From the back, she pleaded to do justice to her but Bhima told, ‘You might turn to be a deceiver and never forget the revenge. It is better you should follow your brother (to die immediately)[iv]

But Dharmaraja interviened and prevented Bhima from killing her. ‘It is sin to kill a woman’, he advised. Then Hidimba turned towards Kunti and Dharmaraja and pleaded for justice. Addressing Kunti she told, ‘Oh lady! You know how the ladies suffer from the pain of Love. I am bitten by the arrows of Love and suffering like this. I have left my people and followed this man. If rejected, the alternative is death and death only to me’, she wept bitterly.

She further argued, ‘Please permit for our marriage. I shall take him to celestial spots on earth, freely roam around for some days and come back with him to your place. Forever I shall help you in all your difficulties and carry all of you to any place of your choice at whatever time’. ‘To obviate the imminent dangers, and to preserve the lives, one should plan a scheme of action. People treading on the path never fail to plan their future’[v].

Hidimba continued, ‘I have a divine vision by which I can foresee the future events. Please accept me into your family and it is dharma for you. Desisting a lady does not deserve to be a dharma.

पुण्यं प्राणान् धारयति पुण्यं प्राणदमुच्यते।
 येनं येनाचरेद्धर्मं तस्मिन् गर्हा न विद्यते।। - puṇyaṃ prāṇān dhārayati puṇyaṃ prāṇadamucyate। yenaṃ yenācareddharmaṃ tasmin garhā na vidyate।।[vi]. The meritorious deeds that men do sustain their lives. So the merit or punya is known as प्राणदं. One should adhere to any plan that helps in the path of dharma sadhana’.

Kunti was pleased by the dharmic talk of Hidimba and asked Dharmaraja to ponder over and take a decision for marrying her to Bhima. Dharmaraja thought for a while and agreed that Hidimba was right. He agreed for the marriage but with a condition.

‘You can roam around with Bhima in day time but you should bring him back by night’[vii]. Hidimba politely agreed.

Kunti turned towards Bhima and told, ‘Oh my dear son! This lady has loved you sincerely and in a righteous way she has approached me. Do not argue anymore and take her hand for the sake of dharma and bless her with a son’. Bhima consented and turning towards Hidimba he told, ‘I shall be with you till you give birth to a son[viii]. Hidimba agreed happily to the proposition.

Hidimba took out Bhima to selected beautiful spots on earth- the flowery gardens, the raving beaches, the deep ridges, the crisp sandy banks, the mountain peaks, the dark clouds, and the celestial fountains and forgot the days and seasons under the embrace Bhima’s broad shoulders. Ultimately she conceived and delivered a male baby who, though a child, was resplendent with youth[ix]. He had a big mouth, fearful eyes, long ears, ejected nose, red lips and above all he had a roaring voice. He was an Asura like her uncle but pious like her mother. Since the hair on his head was erect, the parents named him as Ghatotkacha. Being an Asura, he attained youth and prostrated before all Pandavas with respect. Ghatotkacha and Hidimba promised to help Pandavas whenever it is needed and left to unknown destination.

A short analysis of the story

This is one of the romantic love stories of Mahabharata, though the love is one-sided. Hidimba could not sustain and control her senses on seeing Bhima. On the very first sight, she decided to marry him and wondered how her luck would be if at all he were to be her husband. She wanted to design her heaven in his lap. She pleaded with Bhima to take her hand and when she failed to convince him appealed to the elders for doing justice. She was not angry with Bhima.  Normally, ‘Kama’ (desire) when not realized, will result into ‘krodha’ (anger) and krodha leads to sammoha (disillusion). Gita explains:

सङ्गात्सञ्जायते काम: कामात्क्रोधोऽभिजायते-
‘saṅgātsañjāyate kāma: kāmātkrodho'bhijāyate’ (Gita 2.62)
क्रोधाद्भवति सम्मोह: सम्मोहात्स्मृतिविभ्रम: -
krodhādbhavati sammoha: sammohātsmṛtivibhrama: - (Gita 2.63)

But the desire of Hidimba, though appears lustful, is genuine. For her, death is the only alternative if her request was denied. For understanding the story in a better way, let us compare the approach of Hidimba with that of Surpanakha in Ramayana very briefly (since Surpanakha story will be discussed elaborately in the stories of Ramayana in due course of time).  Surpanakha approached Rama, a person who was already married and his wife was very much with him at the time of her approach. She was attracted by Rama. But when Rama asked her to approach Lakshmana, she approached him and again approached Rama on the advice of Lakshmana. She tried to devour Sita thinking that she was the obstacle for her marriage with Rama. It is a clear case of lust; and a true love can be with one person and one person alone. Wavering love is lust which is not in tune with dharma. Hindu scriptures never say that love is taboo and something to be wrapped under the carpet. A genuine love is well permitted and again in Gita we come across a reference where the Lord Krishna says that the love not associated with adharma was precisely His resplendence.

धर्माविरुद्धो भूतेषु कामोऽस्मि भरतर्षभ - dharmāviruddho bhūteṣu kāmo'smi bharatarṣabha ( Gita 7.11) – I am the Love in beings that is unassociated with adharma.

Hidimba was approaching an unmarried man and when he refused, she was not after other brothers. Also she did not develop grudge against him which is the sign of lust. She appealed to Kunti to understand the agonies of a woman when bitten by the arrows of Love. Then she explains her extraordinary powers and her capacity to help them in their future endeavors. She talks of the necessity of devising life strategy by dharmic people and she can be a trustful lieutenant. Perhaps Kunti felt the necessity of future help and considered her plea both from dharmic and strategic perspectives.

When everyone agreed for the happy union of Bhima and Hidimba why did they impose two peculiar conditions?
Dharmaraja says, “‘you can roam around with Bhima in day time but you should bring him back by night”.
Bhima says, “I shall be with you till you give birth to a son”.

She agreed for the conditions but the rationality of these conditions merit consideration. There are two opinions for the condition laid down by Dharmaraja. The power of Asuras (demons) grow in nights and he did not want Bhima to be in her company in the nights. Secondly, love making in day time is broadly unacceptable as per our sastras (In fact, our sastras put restrictions on certain days when love-making is absolutely prohibited and they are not discussed here as it is not the subject matter of this story). A son born out of love in broad day light may become a demon. We can see Diti approaching her husband Kashyapa in the fag end of the day and the resultant progeny was daityas (demons). When Parasara approached Matsya Gandhi (later on Satyavati on the ship in the broad day light, she apprehended and by his power of tapas, he made it a dark cloudy night and blessed Ved Vyasa to her. Dharmaraja, perhaps wanted a demonic child capable enough to destroy the demons on the side of Duryodhana in case of any eventuality, and at the same time pious enough to support dharma (Swamy Sundara Chaitanya). Some other people opine that a demonic son conceived in night might not be pious as the ascendency of asuric powers in respect of Hidimba were always suspect.

Why did Bhima put a condition? From the story we know that it was one sided love. Bhima did not want to disown her when she was in all out love towards him. The scriptures say that marriage cannot be reason for lust but for giving birth to children. Bhima precisely did the same thing and he cannot be blamed for deciding to leave her on her giving birth to a child. Further he did not agree for marriage since dharma ordains that the marriage of elder brother should take place first. He agreed only when his brother and mother goaded him to marry Hidimba.

Leaving aside the story, we can glean certain psychological perspectives of Love we encounter in daily life. The tragedy of life for many people is that whom we love will not love us back and whom we don’t love will be after us.
This feeling of infatuation can become all-consuming when the object of our affection doesn’t feel the same way about us- (Alana Palm, 2018)[x]. One more famous anonymous quote goes on to say, ‘Nothing hurts more than realizing he meant everything to you and you meant nothing to him’. Of course this observation related to psychology is based on my encounters with the experience of my friends and students; and the readers of the story need not be carried over by these observations since I don’t have any empirical evidence.  

Points to ponder

1.    Does Hindu society viewed sex as taboo?
2.   How do you distinguish dharmic ‘kama’ from that of ‘adharmic kama’?
3.   What are the historical incidents that changed Hindu society from a liberal society of Maha Bharata times to a rigid society by the end of medieval age of history?

My appeal to Readers

I have traced very few references with regard to restriction of sex in day time from our ancient texts. Anybody who has references, please pass on to me over my WhatsApp number 9740287296 or my mail, karanam.rao@gmail.com. 

Similarly all suggestions are welcome. It is our common endeavor to share knowledge and learn our culture in a better fashion.

Footnotes



[i] This Story is taken from Adi Parva written by sage Ved Vyasa.

[ii] Adi Parva 151.31

[iii] PARIVETTA- It is a Sanskrit word. If an younger marries when the elder one still remained unmarried, the married younger brother is called as PARIVETTA.

[iv] Adi Parva 154.1.

[v] आपादस्तरणे प्राणान् धारयेद् येन तेन वा ।

सर्वमावृत्य कर्तव्यं तं धर्ममनुवर्तता ।। - āpādastaraṇe prāṇān dhārayed yena tena vā । sarvamāvṛtya kartavyaṃ taṃ dharmamanuvartatā ।। Adi Parva 154.13

[vi] - Adi Parva 154.15.

[vii]  (Adi Parva 154.18).

[viii]  (Adi Parva 154.20)

[ix] (Adi Parva 154-35,36).

[x] Alana Palm, 2018, “Why We Love the Ones who Don’t Love Us Back”, https://psiloveyou.xyz/why-we-love-the-ones-who-dont-love-us-back-a217e7323a3a. 
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